tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post2473982864799685080..comments2024-03-18T11:15:08.772+01:00Comments on Between Write and Wrong: Guest Post - Projecting Parental Expectations by Jairam Mohan Sakshihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-28210370956342216332013-10-23T06:30:45.586+02:002013-10-23T06:30:45.586+02:00Upside down is THE word for the world of parents t...Upside down is THE word for the world of parents these days. We are a very confused lot. :PSakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-13971320435960495782013-10-23T06:28:24.887+02:002013-10-23T06:28:24.887+02:00Hey, thanks, Red! I think a part of growing up and...Hey, thanks, Red! I think a part of growing up and being made to grow up is about making us forget what we felt/enjoyed/did/did not do when we were children. However, there is a child in all of us. If it can come out in happy times, it should come out and see things from the kid's perspective in difficult times too. Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-24605783105377407442013-10-22T18:37:59.584+02:002013-10-22T18:37:59.584+02:00Sakshi, when a lady says 'i am ready to have a...Sakshi, when a lady says 'i am ready to have a child.' (with exclamations) , she should be asked , 'are u ready to become a mom/parent?'. When I see pregnant ladies on a walk , I say a silent prayer ,'God give her all the resources to fulfill her duty. Welcome to the up-side down world of parents'kalpana solsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05459797629127380780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-60864455883821869322013-10-22T08:25:52.951+02:002013-10-22T08:25:52.951+02:00I am so glad I came across this blog...because the...I am so glad I came across this blog...because the blogger and the guest blogger both seem amazing :)<br />What parents forget is that they too were children once. They forget the feeling, the confusion, the silly dreams... what they do remember is their achievements during their age...and they expect the same if not more from their children. It is not the same time their kids are living in and this is seldom accepted with prudence. Red Handedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17062645716811851771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-42766131690461714552013-10-22T04:58:25.570+02:002013-10-22T04:58:25.570+02:00Thanks, Camila. :)Thanks, Camila. :)Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-33376871799470132942013-10-21T12:17:51.700+02:002013-10-21T12:17:51.700+02:00It's true! And the children are our future... ...It's true! And the children are our future... The parents have to be careful!<br />I'm following you Sakshi, congradulations for your blog :DCamila Rafaela Felippihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691788373130588283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-6336916070295507342013-10-21T04:12:11.204+02:002013-10-21T04:12:11.204+02:00THANK YOU, Proactive Indian. You are mine too, act...THANK YOU, Proactive Indian. You are mine too, actually.<br /><br />Like they say - 'She becomes her mother and he becomes her father.' :D There are more things subterranean and subconscious working around our minds than we may ever know of/notice. Plus, genes toh same hain na. So I agree, we as children do end up doing exactly as our parents did. <br /><br />Sometimes, too much enforcement leads to defiance too, and then you see them going the opposite way from their parents too. Teenage tantrums and adolescent hormonal roller-coaster does that. I talk from experience. :P<br /><br />I also agree. My way or the highway is a philosophy most of us live by, even if we fail to admit it to ourselves. :)Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-60338572877499544342013-10-21T04:08:04.739+02:002013-10-21T04:08:04.739+02:00Right you are, Shilpa. It is our actions that shap...Right you are, Shilpa. It is our actions that shape a child and we need to monitor ourselves more than we discipline them. :)Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-89248133316207893332013-10-21T04:07:04.871+02:002013-10-21T04:07:04.871+02:00Binani ad. :) Interesting take, Vishal. :)Binani ad. :) Interesting take, Vishal. :)Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-25701218623202560352013-10-21T04:05:44.934+02:002013-10-21T04:05:44.934+02:00'Whatever happens' we are with them is a l...'Whatever happens' we are with them is a lovely way of growing up together, Sheethal! :)Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-89399905598011336062013-10-20T14:37:30.790+02:002013-10-20T14:37:30.790+02:00@Proactive Indian, yes, most of us try to impose o...@Proactive Indian, yes, most of us try to impose our likes, dislikes on the people around us don't we. That is such a true point that you makeJairamhttp://mahabore.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-12629416947995692013-10-20T06:16:31.122+02:002013-10-20T06:16:31.122+02:00Both the Guest and the Host are among my favourite...Both the Guest and the Host are among my favourite bloggers!<br /><br />I know people who, as children, resented their parents trying to impose things on them, doing exactly the same thing as parents! The argument is, "I was much more mature at that age!"<br /><br />Not just on our children, many of us try to impose our views on others, on everything including religion, politics, food preferences, etc., etc. We don't believe in 'Live and let live.' We believe in "My way or the highway." But we proclaim, "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it"Proactive Indianhttp://proactiveindian.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-53832202025937955712013-10-20T02:47:12.804+02:002013-10-20T02:47:12.804+02:00@Shilpa, absolutely agree with your comment. And w...@Shilpa, absolutely agree with your comment. And we thought our job was just to feed and provide for our kids, man, parenting is tough, isn't it? :DJairamhttp://mahabore.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-22255866121778461522013-10-19T20:22:06.403+02:002013-10-19T20:22:06.403+02:00Agree completely, children observe parents and the...Agree completely, children observe parents and their behaviors. While as parents we must give freedom of choice to our kids, but we must guide them towards positive/good habits too because a parent's words and actions shape who a child may become and what they may do too.Shilpa Garghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11016927627801620377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-47654513691428308162013-10-19T15:16:46.515+02:002013-10-19T15:16:46.515+02:00@Vishal, yes, most parents try to live their unliv...@Vishal, yes, most parents try to live their unlived lives and dreams through their children without realizing how harmful it really is to the kids.Jairamhttp://mahabore.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-46316899627023494382013-10-19T15:15:45.025+02:002013-10-19T15:15:45.025+02:00@Sheethal, so true, we need to let children grow o...@Sheethal, so true, we need to let children grow on their own and develop their own personalities, and that's the only we will realize that they also can become such wonderful human beings of their own accord.Jairamhttp://mahabore.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-6881359762469292013-10-19T11:19:41.034+02:002013-10-19T11:19:41.034+02:00Yes, Rachna. I too am wondering how, just how, som...Yes, Rachna. I too am wondering how, just how, someone managing a full-time job in office and a full-time-daddy role at home can manage that. Maybe it's about starting the day with the right breakfast. :D<br />Can make out from knowing you through writing/FB that you must be a wonderful mother! And I am sure your children will be reflection of that!Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-62142353988015962982013-10-19T11:16:00.251+02:002013-10-19T11:16:00.251+02:00Thank you, Vidya. :)Thank you, Vidya. :)Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-14317215914871841622013-10-19T10:44:49.382+02:002013-10-19T10:44:49.382+02:00Let them experience for themselves, a thought-prov...Let them experience for themselves, a thought-provoking post from Jairam and it is something many parents have forgotten because of their ego, I am telling you it's like that only and perhaps,lack of sensibility. Education, I feel, is something many parents have forgotten and long love the sky for having nee age parents like Sakshi and U. Three cheers to Jairam and Sakshi for this one. Simply brilliant:) One thing your post reminded me of AB ad of Binani..maa baap kahin nahin jaate hai::)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-16310630586963552722013-10-19T08:21:22.643+02:002013-10-19T08:21:22.643+02:00Having a teenage brother, I can so relate to this....Having a teenage brother, I can so relate to this. At times I do wonder if I am from some other era when around him. Rather than imposing our own ideologies on them giving them choices seems to be the best way and to make sure that whatever happens we are just behind them.<br /><br />Great post! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-43228997233996359532013-10-19T08:09:38.429+02:002013-10-19T08:09:38.429+02:00@Rachna, love it when you say that you feel proud ...@Rachna, love it when you say that you feel proud of the way that you are raising them, and that is just how all of us ought to feel. After all, the fact that we read, write and comment on parenting related posts mean that these thoughts are almost always at the back of our minds. We are doing our bit to bring up responsible human beings and responsible world citizens. And that is the least we owe to this world and society, isn't it.Jairamhttp://mahabore.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-72014133661773372562013-10-19T07:40:38.695+02:002013-10-19T07:40:38.695+02:00Jairam, 2 or 3 posts in a day! How do you do that,...Jairam, 2 or 3 posts in a day! How do you do that, man? I completely agree with what you say though I must say it is very difficult to follow. I havr 2 sons, 11 and 7, and I've tried to be as open and free as possible with them right from culinary choices to what they read and watch, rituals and religion. Yet as a parent, there are values that I want them to imbibe both by actipn and talk. Their needs change as they get older. And it is a tough balance being both a parent and friend. At the end of the day, I feel proud of the way I am raising them because parenting just is so diverse yet so individualistic. Nice one, Sakshi and Jairam.Rachnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275266551382931603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-33946184462644808062013-10-19T07:39:14.720+02:002013-10-19T07:39:14.720+02:00:-) Jairam - you post wayyyy too often..is what I ...:-) Jairam - you post wayyyy too often..is what I meant...I am often panting and puffing trying to keep up :D But I am always rewarded with fabulous posts and it is worth it!<br /><br />Sakshi - you highlighted my pet hate - parents ranting/raving/acting smart in front of their kids. Ugh. I just can't go with that sort of behavior. And then, imagine the child discussing this with her peer group. Disgusting!<br /><br />Jairam and Sakshi - I am blessed to know you both.Vidya Suryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12911836541019511108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-24001093062947231422013-10-19T07:04:50.297+02:002013-10-19T07:04:50.297+02:00Kalpana, I sit today and think what exactly was I ...Kalpana, I sit today and think what exactly was I ready for when I said 'Im ready' to my husband for having a child. Everyday unfolds it's own newness and challenges. While I enjoy the former, the latter is something I could never be ready for in advance. :)Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4960082414020218571.post-15911412793460816162013-10-19T07:03:16.572+02:002013-10-19T07:03:16.572+02:00Too much humility, I think. Right you are, Rekha, ...Too much humility, I think. Right you are, Rekha, But I;m waiting to hear his side of the story before I again ask him - 'Why Mahabore?'<br />Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13127774513800413908noreply@blogger.com