Thursday, 7 November 2013

When the Daddy is away ...


… the mice are not out to play. Or are they?

Daddy has to go away sometimes. Travel for work as they call it. Boss says go for a 3 day conference, daddy goes for 5 – conference plus travel time plus reaching home in the middle of the night. 8 pm on the first day of his absence and you can see the child waiting for the bell to ring. Papa will come in a little while, you say. Dinner is had on the bed. Who will dip my roti in the daal, he asks a little perturbed. He senses that something is different. By bed-time, when the lights are dimmed, papa’s pillow rests unused. His eyes widen, sleep is knocking but curious questions abound. But I want to give good night 'kissy' to papa! What do you say? It’s not even one down, and there are 4 more days to go!

Between answering some and keeping quiet on others, the days pass. As the morning sun rises on the 4th day, daddy’s absence has become a given now, no matter how incomplete the picture at home may be. Children accept it I think, or do they? 

So, what do I do when my child’s father has to travel for work? Here’s a peep

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23 comments:

  1. And what must poor daddy do to make up for the time that he was missed, even if with distraction? Get expensive pressies?

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    1. How do you know? I wonder ... :D
      Thanks for reading this parenting post. :)

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  2. This was such a beautiful post about how your son reacted when his dad was not around. Good to see that you managed wonderfully well without dad around, despite the guilty sins of McDonalds and shopping :D

    My daughter was 6 months younger when my wife actually left her with me and my parents for 7 whole days. While we were able to manage for the first 4 days without her missing Amma too much, the last 3 days got quite tricky and it took all of my wits and quick distraction tactics to keep her from missing her mother.

    As for me, she has missed me enough and more when my wife goes to her parents' house, usually 14 long day trips, and the expression she gives when she sees me after this time gap is truly priceless. Loved this post.

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    1. Correction. Shopping was never included under 'guilty sins'. McDonald's was, but only to keep up appearances. :P

      Kudos to you for managing a 6 month old on your own. If I had mentioned a similar thing to my husband, he would have built a house and relocated to wherever I was going. Or, quit his job. Whichever was more affordable. :D

      May you keep getting that 'priceless' expression from your daughter. What a good daddy you must be. :)

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  3. Kids they adjust beautifully. Moms are a different story altogether :). Once in a while it is fun when one parent goes out of town because the other one pampers them silly!

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    1. I do agree, Rachna. Once in a while that change is good. Why, even for the mothers. ;)
      Thanks a lot for reading! :)

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    2. I meant that it is moms who find it harder to cope with the separation :-P! I can sense the your absolute longing for your SO. I used to find it hard, still do when hubby goes away. We are on the phone and chat almost all the time, and I find it hard to get good sleep too :).

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    3. I cannot sleep well either. Ditto. We try keeping in touch as much as possible too. I know what you meant, and I know what you mean, Rachna. :)

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  4. When it comes to separation pangs, kids cope surprisingly well. Are you sure it was not the Mom who had a tougher time dealing with 4 days of his absence :p

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    1. It was, indeed, Purba ma'am. Just 6 hours and 15 minutes to go now. But shhh! ;)
      Thank you for stopping by!

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  5. Loved this !

    Papa pe taras aaya mjhe to wo priceless expression socheke. Loved the whole write up. I like ur articles a lot on parentous :)

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    1. Thank you, Afshan. You made my day. :D Haan, that expression is priceless, taras or no taras. :P

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  6. Hello!

    You have been awarded and tagged! Kindly accept the 'Leibstar Award' from my blog!

    :)

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  7. Really nice article..very well written. Thanks for the post.

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  9. A very nice post, and quite some parenting tips too ;)

    Pages off Life

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    1. Thank you for stopping by, Rupertt! :)

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  10. When was a kid I only get to see my dad once in a while. And those days were just too precious. And when he goes he breaks the heart.... Father's always hold a very special place in a child's heart.

    Very beautiful post. Hope the "Dad" is back. :)

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    1. Thank you, ME. So I have got a perspective from a child who spent time without his father, mostly. :) Very happy you loved this post.

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  11. Hey I finally came across your blog :) .... i can relate to this post.... my dad worked in a different city for many years.... we would wait for him to come over all the time... my mum more than made up for it, though....

    <3 ashima

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    1. Hello. GOOD you found me, and I found you. Happy you can relate to the post!
      Now, keep reading! :)

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