Thursday, 5 September 2013

Our Father at Home, Holy Be Thy Name




In the world of poets, writers and even those poster shares which form the backbone of Facebook spamming, fathers are conspicuous by their absence. The mother is sung about, the father's never to be found in any song. Motherhood is a virtue, fatherhood ... is that a word? Well, maybe a mention here and there, to rhyme with rather, or lather, or just to portray fairness and equality in mommy bloggers’ blogposts about parenting. Other than that, no one seems to be writing about fathers and their -hood. Look at us, most of us know Mother's Day but we need a glittery message on our neighbourhood Archies Gallery door to remind us about Father's Day - with last year's unsold cards proudly displayed, hoping they will get sold at least this year around.  

Let's begin at the beginning, when millions swim and swim, looking for that proverbial light at the end of the tunnel, fully knowing that only one will win. And what victory is his ...

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  1. A big thank u for showing concern for fathers of the world...(lowly mortals)!!Kudos.Loved it.

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    1. No lowly mortals, please. Thanks, Rajesh! :)

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  2. A big thank u for showing concern for fathers of the world...(lowly mortals)!!Kudos.Loved it.

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  3. Lovely Post Sakshi! I am a Daddy's girl and you would have noticed that in most of my posts. And both my daughters too are Daddy's girls, and trust me, I don't feel bad about it. The fathers really do their bit with all they have. And it's true that most of the time, it's those nine extra months that steal the show. A wonderful tributes to all Daddies. I'm gonna share it with my Daddy and the Daddy of my daughters right away. Thank you! :-)

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    1. I cannot say I haven't noticed, Rekha. I am too, actually, aren't we all? ;) Feels good that you like it enough to share it with the daddies around you. :) Thank you!

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  4. You are so right Sakshi. Even though I wouldn't confess it before my parents but I am more of a Daddy's Girl too.
    Just last week, he cremated my fish for me because I was out of town :D :D
    Now, my mother would have never done that :P

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    1. Nice to see you confessing it here, Motivatingria. Thank you for reading! :)

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  5. 'Our Father In Heaven, Holy Be Thy Name...'
    The caption reminded my daughter of her morning prayer assemblies at school!

    Nice Work! And... and I am always short of words for your excellent writing skills!

    P.S. Nishad looks so cute leaning onto Aseem's shoulder! :)

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    1. The same one that your daughter says every morning I did too, in school. :) I just changed the words a little, Poonam. :) Thanks for all the good words! :D

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  6. Being rather in the corrective mode today and to show off the little (faulty)knowledge that I have - if it is a "Y" Chromosome it WILL be a boy. It is whether the sperm carries the "X" or the "Y" that decides the sex. Of course, you meant the "Y" chromosome in the family and not in that squiggly thing but why let that stop me from showing off :)

    Lovely post Sakshi - all the more because it strikes a blow for the poor downtrodden dads :)

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    1. Yes, I stand corrected. I meant to say that, actually. Especially to those people who blame the woman for producing a girl, when actually, it's the daddy's 'Y' which played truant and did not combine with the 'X' in good time. So in THAT sense, Im not so off the mark! (Thank you for the correction though, Suresh!:)

      Good to know the poor downtrodden dads will like this! :D

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    2. Oh! You meant THAT? I thought you were euphemistically referring to the daddy as the "Y" Chromosome :)

      I NEVER actually come out with this 'error reporting' normally on blog comments Sakshi - and, certainly, would never be as rude to do it on a third party forum :) Yesterday was an exception :) Did something like that to Rickie as well. I do have my moods :)

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    3. If you already know how "good" a cook I am, Suresh, then also know another important aspect of mine - when I think an apology is due I usually demand it. And here, it is NOT. Please, thank you for opening my eyes and jogging my memory down Mendel's lane. :D I was euphemistically using 'Y' = Daddy but I did make that mistake.

      I do have my moods too. You can say, yesterday and today are the generous ones! :D

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  7. On about becoming a stepfather I repaired to the research library to read up and the only book I found was by a woman who said there was no research and had no helpful advice except to say that "We'll let you be the father if you're good enough."
    Musically not much about fathers. Your prayer is like the Lord's Prayer of the Christians. There's also the first verse "Eternal Father Strong to Save" (which goes onto the rest of the trinity). In Judaism there's "Avinu Malkenu" (Our Father Our King). But not much. I don't think the Muslims ever refer to God as Father, too personal I suppose. "Everything I own" is actually a memorial to Bread's David Gates' father who had died..
    Anyway, fathers are there to roughhouse with the boys and teach the kids to do the right thing.
    Steve

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    1. My prayer is indeed borrowed from the Lord's prayer which I remember from school. :) Interesting information you got there. Actually, should do a little 'research' into Fatherhood and Religion myself. Indeed, fathers are there to roughhouse with the boys! :) Thanks for reading, Steve! :)

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  8. What a lovely ode to Fathers. Even those of them that are reading this will probably smile silently but express nothing verbally.
    But very glad that they found a voice through your post!

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  9. I honestly was moved to tears, Sakshi, promise I was. Despite the fact that you belong to 'the other side' you have managed to so beautifully well capture the father side of things of parenting.

    Yes, we will remain cradle, horse, car racer and ATM Machines, in that order for the rest of our lives, but it is posts like these that appreciate our efforts that make all of it worth living for :)

    As usual, an awesome post, which goes without saying...

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    1. Even though I am pretty confident you are exaggerating the tears, I will accept your thank you, Jairam. :) And worry not, it is not just posts like these but the bundles you play daddies to who will give you all the reasons to feel proud of yourself!

      Thank you! :)

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  10. Beautifully captured. I read the 'shopping part' with my jaw hanging. So true. Except the father got cranky too in my case ;)

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    1. Oh, Gunjan, what you read in this post is all that I have experienced, and my husband. :P The fathers getting cranky is not so rare! We women are like that only! :P

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  11. At least u dared to care for us and it really doesn't matter if U are a little bit sarcastic :)

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    1. Oh, but I thought I was not being sarcastic at all, Jahid. Seriously! Hm. Well, happy you liked it nonetheless. :)

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  12. Every word true, Sakshi! To be fair, I know a lot of kids who appreciate their dads as much as their moms. I have at least penned two posts on the glory of dads myself :). Like Rickie pointed it, it is mostly because men are quieter and more matter of fact about these things, whereas, we moms get sentimental at the drop of a hat. Witness me :).

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    1. Oh, I'm going to hop over and read those posts ASAP, Rachna. Yes, men often 'express nothing verbally' especially in circumstances where they have wives like mine. :P I love you too much - sentimental or not I care not, Rachna! Thank you so much for reading! :)

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    2. Awww You just melted me with those words. I love you back -- the sensible, smart, savvy, intelligent yummy mommy that you are!

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    3. I just took a print out of this comment of yours, and pasted it in my room. My husband needs to get more expressive. Meet him, please! Thanks, Rachna! :D

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    4. LOL My husband needs some training in that dept. as well. For compliments, we have girlfriends na :D!

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  13. Dads definitely do their bit. A beautiful tribute for all the loving dads.

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  14. Great read Sakshi.
    But off late reading too many stories of father monsters in newspapers. :(

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    1. You're right. Equal amount of 'momster' stories too, of mother's selling off girls and what not. But then, there is always a brighter side to life which needs to be acknowledged with gratitude. Thank you for liking the piece, Indrani. :)

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  15. How true! I made a conscious effort for my girls to interact with their father and used to send them for holidays with him - they treasured these holidays which meant chocolate cake for breakfast, no baths for three days and of course sharing of ideas and memories.

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    1. How lovely, bellybytes. We all have our own little tales of times spent with our daddies, or our children's. Thank you so much for stopping by! :)

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  16. Lovely Post Sakshi, A G+ for ur Post and Have a Nice day. . . :)

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    1. Thank you, OurJaipur. Nice to see you around after a long time! :)

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  17. I feel nostalgic for my childhood after going through this. Ma'am you always come up with very magnetic posts. The very first time I googled blogs to read, I happened to click on yours and went through "SMALL TOWN MENTALITY". Since then I look forward to read no other blog but yours as you mostly pen down the "forgotten" or "ignored" part of our lives. You inspire me to debate on these topics with my friends ;-) .

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    1. You made me so happy, Bhavya. Thank you for your appreciation and I like how you say I inspire you to debate on these topics with my friends. Must be fun! :D

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